This Section documents messages from the close of 2007-2009. 2010 is first, then the rest follow. Please continue....
Dear Endo Friends,
Happy New Year!
Here it is time again for my annual President’s Message! 2010 was a year of GROWTH! Our first ever Endo Walk around Greenlake took place in July. It happened to coincide with the annual Greenlake Milk Carton Derby Event, so we received a lot of genuine interest from the public including the camera man who took a photo of my shirt with his iPhone and sent it to his wife, an endo sufferer. The walk was followed by a potluck picnic and both were well attended by group members!
Speaking of attendance, we have had record breaking attendance at our monthly meetings. Several meetings were held with folks pulling in extra chairs and “squeezing” to accommodate everyone. Four guest speakers attended our meetings this past year including Cindy Mosbrucker, MD and her assistant, Anne, Megan Groves, Nutritionist, and Holly Fritz, Acupuncturist. Thank you for attending and sharing your endo knowledge and time with us! The board is currently planning more speaker engagements in 2011, so stay tuned!
After several meetings, I reflected on comments made such as, “I did everything right in college and beyond, why do I deserve this”? “Maybe this is payback for partying as a teenager”. I know we all understand on a cognitive level endo is not something we did or did not “deserve”. It simply is. The cells are there no matter our past. No one is owed endometriosis, cancer, or any other acute or chronic diseases. It is how we navigate the experience that counts. A close friend of mine recently underwent a mastectomy at 37. She certainly didn’t ask for or deserve breast cancer, but there it was confirmed via biopsy. Below is an email she sent to her friends and assured me I could share it with this group. Sometimes, I think we endo sufferers keep too much inside and do not ask for enough. Here it is:
“When I was a little kid I would pore over the Christmas catalog and write a detailed list of top items I wanted for Christmas from my mom and dad - and while my recent medical condition is nothing at all like Christmas people have been so generous to ask me 'what can I do for you'--- well, I'm not really sure b/c I am not really one to ask for help - but here is a my first official online brainstorming list:
email me
send me letters (snail mail)
bring me fruit
and dark chocolate
and peanut butter and chocolate (Reese’s: two great tastes that taste great together)
and pomegranate seeds
fresh bread
and grapefruit (oh that counts as fruit)
and yogurt covered pretzels
Pinot Noir
tell me what’s going on with YOU
go with me to get a mani and pedi
bring me videos to borrow
and books
or music
go on walks
play in the leaves (after you help me rake them up) aren't you lucky!
call TT and take him out for a beer or a game or something 'guyish'
share your magazines when you're done with them
write me funny poems - or have your kids do that
and have them draw/color me pictures
lipgloss
flavored hand sanitizer
hand lotion
Mint Frangos
ooooh soy vanilla candles
write me a story - or a novella
paint me a picture
THE winning lottery ticket
Black cashmere button down sweater (all ya can do is plant the seed -ha ha)
Black leather cashmere lined gloves (same here)
Make me soup
Massage gift certificate
Free Gas for life (a gal can dream can't she)
Free car detailing for life (still dreaming)
New Towels (well, why not?)
New Flannel Sheets for a queen bed - wink wink
toothpicks (odd one I know, but I am out of them)
paper products - you who know me well, know about my 3 card limit - I LOVE cards that I can send to who? YOU all....
Clone the dog the wonderdog amazing snuggler
Dog treats for said wonderdog
A New Car (hee hee)
Take TT to Pazzo's for pizza
Hug me
Mother's Taffy cookies with milk
fancy truffle salt to put on my popcorn
good vibes
spin a prayer wheel for me if near one anytime soon
meet me for coffee or tea or happy hour
help me start my indoor herb garden
Take TT to a Guy Movie
bring ingredients over for dinner and cook dinner with me
sing me a song
tell me a joke or a riddle
play MadLibs with me
play cards (even though I am not much of a card player)
teach me how to tie nautical knots
help me secure the dishwasher to the counter so it doesn't pull away when I open it up
help me put up blinds in the bedroom with the eraser light
walk the dog with me
cute earrings for potentially temporarily bald persons
help me find a new light fixture for the upstairs bedroom
teach me how to upload photos or what I would need to do so
iced tea
lemonade
Teach me the harmonica
Cure Cancer
Hold my hand
Love,
JT
The only addition to the list I would make is “Cure Endometriosis!”
The Endometriosis Research Center has added another group on the Peninsula! The new group leader is Michelle Abel and she has worked very hard on marketing and organizing her meeting places. Her group will be meeting twice monthly alternating between Gig Harbor and Silverdale, WA. If you are interested in attending, see www.seattleendo.org for contact information. Watching both groups grow will be very exciting in 2011!
The Seattle Board met on January 20 and after 5+ years as Seattle Endo Group President, I am stepping down and handing the role over to the capable hands of Nickie McDonald. The transition will take effect on February 1, 2011. I have been blessed with a great Board and group members. While I offered support to others over the last several years, I realize I gained more support than I gave. This group is an amazing collective of women, spouses, mothers, fathers, families, and friends all offering time, kindness, knowledge, and compassion to our “elite” group of endo sufferers. I am proud to continue on the Board and support the growth of this group in a different capacity.
Thanks to all of you!
Debbie
President
Endometriosis Research Center of Greater Seattle
January 2011
Read below for messages from 2007-2009...
Dear Endo Friends,
I would like to take this opportunity to give thanks to all of you who have participated in so many ways to the success of the Seattle/Eastside Chapter of the Endometriosis Association. This is the close of my first calendar year as president. As I reflect on the past year, I am amazed at the women I have met. There have been some great meetings comprised of smart, successful, incredible women and their support systems. I have met several fabulous husbands and one awesome mom (Karen, I aim to be a mom like you). We have been educated by a physician, Dr. Mosbrucker, with skills to treat those with advanced cases of Endo. All of us share the same goal, to end the pain of endometriosis. I am overwhelmed by the adversity women have and amazed by the incredible ability to work, raise children, participate in school, and be normal human beings despite their Endo.
I look up to all of you!
This Chapter of the EA would not exist without each and every one of you. For that I am sincerely indebted. Looking forward to 2008, I would like each woman to take the “10 Postcard Challenge”. What is this you ask? I have come up with a postcard simply giving women information on our group. I am hoping to distribute these postcards to the many community boards around the greater Seattle region to let women know we exist. How can I help you ask? This is an important and easy way to contribute to others with Endo whether you are an active meeting attendee or someone with far too many obligations to attend monthly meetings but would like to help others. Simply drop an e-mail to goodbyecramps@seattleendo.org and I will send you 10 postcards. All 10 postcards could be brought to your doctor’s office, distributed to various free community boards (think PCC, Starbucks, or Whole Foods), or a combination of both.
Many of you obtain information via the great information highway called the Internet. There are some fabulous, informative websites out there. This is a good place to get your questions answered. Sometimes, that is not quite enough. What is said between the lines? What is the deal exactly? That is where the group attendees, my board members, Jill and Brenda, and I come in. We give Endo a face. We are real people with Endo. The computer can give you some answers, but we can address your real concerns and then talk about the options. We often dissolve into laughter over some of the options and scenarios brought up in the group. It is a great place to talk to others who understand and who have lived it.
The following is a description of a doctor’s appointment (a referral to an “excellent laparoscopic surgeon”) I had recently. If I hadn’t lived through the following scene, I wouldn’t have believed it was true. The point of me sharing this is not about whether or not to have a hysterectomy. This is an individual choice for each woman and the group is supportive of each individual’s choice. The story below is about each woman’s right to have a choice and the importance of educating yourself thoroughly about surgical options. Here goes:
Lots of things didn't feel right. It took 6 weeks to get an appointment, I was on time but they mysteriously didn't have paperwork I had sent weeks ago, the Dr. was running late by 1/2 hour--ended up she didn't see me for an hour and one half. She took copious notes on my history and symptoms, and then explained she had to do a pelvic exam to find out where my left ovary was. I pointed to my left ovary, warned her it would hurt and that I would probably fly off the table....apparently, she needed to see this. After the painful pelvic exam, she left the room, then returned with several flyers on hysterectomy and said "My biggest decision is whether to approach this laparoscopically, by bikini line incision, or vaginally". And I thought this was my decision. I asked her about removing my Endo and she said (you are not going to believe this), "Hysterectomy is the only way to cure endometriosis". I couldn't believe my ears. From all of the readings I have done and support groups I have attended I know hysterectomy doesn't cure Endo, although it can be a good choice for many women. I asked her how my symptoms would go away if the Endo was not removed, my ovaries and uterus were removed, and I started taking hormone replacement. She said my Endo would be suppressed with a suppressor drug I would take in addition to HRT. Unbelievable!! Why not just suppress me now? Finally, she handed me a Rx for an MRI and said she wanted to rule out a slipped disc or hip osteoarthritis. (I already told her I had a PT evaluation and did not have neurological symptoms at the spinal cord level. As a medical professional, I know a simple x-ray can diagnose hip OA effectively and I already have a diagnosis of Endo, so why the expensive MRI)? Moving on, she asked me when I wanted to schedule my hysterectomy. I told her I was overwhelmed and needed to discuss it with my family. Her medical assistant called me within 48 hours to schedule my surgery. I politely declined.
I emphasize the importance of Education and Support! Surgery, whatever procedure you choose, is just that; your decision. Any one treating you in less than a compassionate manner, declining to fully explain the pros and cons of a drug or surgical procedure, or simply making statements that are not true should not have the honor of being your physician.
All in all, the Seattle/Eastside Chapter of the Endometriosis Association has experienced a fabulous year! I couldn’t ask for two better board members, Jill and Brenda! I am looking forward to a wonderful 2008 with the “10 Postcard Challenge” and meeting, supporting, and sharing Endo experiences with you!
Happy Thanksgiving!
Happy Holidays!
Debbie
President
Seattle/Eastside Chapter of the
Endometriosis Association
November 2007
Dear Endo Friends-
I write this at the close of my second full year as President of the Seattle/Eastside Chapter of the Endometriosis Association. This has been a FANTASTIC year with all support group meetings well attended! Many new members found us via our website www.seattleendo.org or the national website www.endometriosisassn.org . Our Board grew from three to five dedicated members. The July potluck picnic was a success complete with significant others, family members, and canine participants! Autumn was initiated with an awesome lecture by two knowledgeable acupuncturists from Acupuncture Northwest. Finally, we ended the 2008 year with a pre-holiday dinner at Pyramid Alehouse.
Last year, I wrote encouraging women to take charge of their medical destiny after I had shared my not-so-positive office visit with an experienced laparoscopic surgeon. I would like to finish my story this year and I will do so by starting at the end.
I jogged 6 miles last week and I have been anti-inflammatory (I cannot tolerate narcotic pain killers) and hormone free for 10 full months! This is the longest stretch of time since I was 14 years old. Did I mention I haven’t had much pain? I can ride my bike? Lift my children? Walk without limping? Better, yet, stand up straight? Sleep comfortably the whole night? Kayak? Am not exhausted daily? Can work, garden…the list continues.
After my “consultation”, I decided to have a real consult with a national expert, finally following my own advice. I sent three pages of pain complaints and apologized for sounding like a train wreck. I received back an impressive, meticulously analyzed summary of why I was probably having the symptoms I was having AND why a hysterectomy was NOT recommended unless I wanted one. Hmmmm. Imagine, finding someone who wasn’t eager to do a hysterectomy! In brief, two expert laparoscopic surgeons, Drs. Cindy Mosbrucker and David Redwine, worked approximately 4 hours to, as dramatic as it sounds, give me my life back. The abridged details follow (skip this section if you tend to faint while reading gory details):
Endometriosis was excised from my pelvic floor, cul-de-sac, bladder, bowel, left ureter, broadband ligaments, and uterus; my mangled left ovary was removed (yes, I consented beforehand); cysts were removed from my right ovary and it was repositioned (my eggs now take a northerly rather than a conventional southerly route); a uterine fibroid and two myomas were excised, and, finally, the section of bowel that insisted on scarring to the left uterine wall was, ummm, encouraged to detach.
Is it a wonder I had pain? I am still humored by the look the recovery room nurse had when she asked for my pain scale and I replied “Zero”. How can this be several hours after abdominal surgery? My post-surgery pain was there, but I seriously had much, more endo pain prior to surgery!
So, women with endo! Once again, I encourage you to take charge of your medical destiny. Find the expert (better yet national expert) who will work in line with your personal philosophies. During the September acupuncture lecture, Stephanie reiterated an important point: There is no “quick fix” for endometriosis either in Eastern or Western medicine. It is a process that takes time, sometimes months or years to attain better control of the multitude of symptoms. It involves lifestyle changes including gentle exercise, dietary alternatives, stress reduction techniques, and often alternative medicines and/or surgery.
We exist as a group to support each other in this journey toward excellent health. I am honored to know each and every one of you amazing women and your significant supporters! For those I haven’t met, 2009 is a good year to participate in the group. The 2008 financial markets have had losses and gains, but women will still have endo and need each other to improve their life quality in 2009!
Happy Holidays!
Debbie
President
Seattle/Eastside Chapter of the Endometriosis Association
November 2008
Dear Endo Friends,
As 2009 came to a close, I thought about writing my President’s message at Thanksgiving, as I had the last two years. This year, however, I decided to wait and write my message in the New Year in the interest of new beginnings, resolutions, and fresh starts.
January 2009 started with a fabulous MD presentation complete with video of a robotic surgery. One member was hospitalized post endo surgery with complications we all fear. Her positive attitude regarding physicians, hospitals, family, and healing are truly inspiring. We had two miracle endo babies born in the last half of the year. We heard an incredible endo story from a mom whose miracle endo baby was born over thirty years ago. We have discussed surgical techniques, IBS, IC, Lyme Tick disease, Lupron, pain medications, and emotions surrounding endo. The year finished with an intimate and casual social gathering. I am constantly impressed by this group of dedicated women and their families who gather monthly to share their successes and disappointments on their endo journey.
Our group added Nickie McDonald as Outreach Coordinator. She didn’t hesitate to volunteer for this position. She is the one who will contact you monthly regarding updates, meetings, and special events. Please thank her for her time and energy she has put into making our group just a little bit better!
Lastly, we are no longer a Chapter of the Endo Association. After we became a Chapter in 2001, I watched the Seattle group grow, shrink, and grow strong again in the last several years. We have worked on outreach programs and one method was the creation of our website www.seattleendo.org. I will say candidly that the Endo Association asked us to shut it down this past June (despite receiving 90% of our new members via this means). This and many other reasons led the Seattle Group members to dissolve Chapter status and to look into other options.
So we are in a New Year with a fresh beginning and an exciting, dynamic organization. The Endometriosis Research Center www.endocenter.org is a not-for-profit organization dedicated to improving the lives of women with endo via research and support. It costs nothing to join, so I encourage all of you peruse their website and become a member. We are officially called The Endometriosis Research Center of Greater Seattle. Ahhhhhh! A new start for a New Year!
Looking forward to seeing all of you!
Debbie
President
Endometriosis Research Center of Greater Seattle
January 2010